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2012-08-20

Trust issues


I think one problem of dating issues nowadays is both parties are afraid to show their true selves. This is one of the major reasons why marriages fail. You cannot marry someone if they have never seen the real you or if you are not sure that you have seen the real them. One sign that one or both of you are hiding your true self is if you have never had a disagreement or argument. Instead of confronting what you see as a problem, you are changing something about yourself that you may regret at a later time.

And yesterday, I realized there is something bigger apart from hiding your true self. It is TRUST.

Trust is a major issue when dating. You would like dating to be mutually exclusive, but because of past experiences, feelings of mistrust intrude upon the relationship. I kind of experienced that but I guess there is just something I need to deal with on my own. I am always afraid of losing someone/something, and I don't think I am good enough to keep them. That is why I am scared of my boyfriend would like someone else while dating me. Or, similar things like this.

However, God said: Soda, this is stupid. You have to stop thinking in this way because I will take care of this. Trust me.

I believe the way to overcome trust issues is to talk through any feelings of mistrust. Expain and explore. By talking through these issues, trust can be expanded and given to your partner.
I am willing to take the time to talk to my boyfriend about everything on my mind. I think the wider the variety of topics, the more I will understand whether the relationship is worth pursuing.

So, I am trying to let go everything, again, and again. This is really a life-long lesson in my life. God, I allow Your strength to come into me..


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